Let’s learn how to be more attractive! Secretly, deep down, we all just want to be pretty, look good and do nothing but take pictures for Instagram. This is obviously a joke, so stop hating. Looking pretty is probably one of the least important things in my world right now, however I do know for a fact that feeling attractive makes me feel a little bit better. I truly believe when you look good, you feel good. And if you’re not feeling or looking your best, there’s a pretty fast way that doesn’t a ton of money or pain to fix it. Here it goes, how to be instantly more attractive.
I’m Not A Model, You Know What I Mean
I want to make a disclaimer here. I got some hateful comments on a blog post I wrote about “how to look good every day“. One woman said it’s an entitled post and hinted that I don’t take care of my child, someone else said something else…A big mess for something I wrote when I wasn’t feeling the most confident in my own skin after having a baby and gaining 40 freaking pounds for basically breathing.
I wrote that post for me and people like myself – people who didn’t feel confident during a season of life and needed some encouragement to keep moving forward and not wanting to hide entirely from the world.
I’m not sharing these tips from the perspective of a model, because I think I’m better than everyone else, and “here let me tell you how to look good because I always look good”. No. I’m sharing these things because sometimes we need to hear them. Even if they seem superficial. They’re not.
These things are obvious, I’m not discovering electricity here. But sometimes, when we get distracted with the things life throws at us, we forget. And these are reminders for those days when you feel anything but good about yourself.
How To Be More Attractive Instantly
One of the most attractive traits in men and women is confidence. And one of the best ways to become more attractive instantly is to do the little things that improve your confidence. Here are three of them.
1. Fix Your Posture
Body language is so much more powerful than we know. Your posture specifically can instantly change how others see you and it can change how you feel about yourself. There’s a very popular TED talk on the topic from a few years ago, where researcher Amy Cuddy shares how we can be more confident and powerful by simply being mindful about our posture.
I know for me when I look down and have a very closed off posture as if I’m tired or don’t even deserve to be somewhere – nobody ever looks at me or wants to talk to me. The minute I put my shoulders down, open my chest and look up – I,
1st of all, have less back pain, yes, and
2nd. people start wanting to talk to me.
It’s scary. Sometimes, when I don’t feel particularly social or when there’s a creepy guy approaching, I’d activate my hunchback posture on purpose. Yes, that’s why. So posture is a big thing, be mindful of it.
2. Be Present
Be more present and open to people. People want to connect, sometimes you just have to accept that connection. You have to physically and mentally be there for that conversation. Make space for it. Actually listen when others are talking, be more engaged and have a real conversation, not a monologue.
I cannot tell you how many times I would’ve missed out on real friendships, had I closed myself off to “these strangers” because I was too busy or too much in my head to have a real conversation. Be present and open to opportunities.
3. Be Authentic
Do the things you want to do in life and don’t hold back. Wear the clothes you feel like you deserve to wear, do your makeup, hair and nails in a way that makes you feel confident and feels authentic to you. Take care of your body the way it deserves to be treated, it’s the only one you’ve got. There’s no need to hide yourself and to hide what you think you deserve. You can speak up and show up as yourself.
If you’re trying to be someone else, you cannot be confident – because that’s not you. You don’t know exactly how to be someone else, you can only be yourself. And that is more than good enough. When you’re true to yourself you’ll attract the right people into your life.
You don’t need to fit into anyone’s box. You need to only be authentic to you. Being authentic will make you more attractive, because, even in 2020 it’s rare. Even when everyone’s sharing their lives on social media, much of it isn’t really the truth. Be that truth, you’ll love and trust yourself so much more for it. And you can start right now.
I know, these 3 things aren’t super specific advise like “shave your armpits”, “exfoliate your elbows” or “whiten your teeth until they’re radiating like Uranium”, but if you want to feel good about yourself, to be more attractive to the right people – this is the way to go. And now I realize, it’s 2020 and #2 is gonna be tougher than ever. Still, worth a try, even with a mask.